Those days happen. They happen not just to you and me, but they happen to everyone. The difference, what really matters, is not you having a hard day. The most important thing is how you choose to respond.
There are two ways people choose to respond to every problem in life. They blame others or their circumstances, or they take ownership themselves. That’s what I want to encourage you to do.
It doesn’t matter if you’re selling Amazon, selling on eBay, are in the real estate business, or train and coach. The truth is, we’re still human.
I had a friend I confronted who would say things like “People are just stupid.” He was constantly complaining about his industry.
I asked him, “How is your compassion for people growing?”
He said, “If people didn’t make dumb mistakes, then things would be easier.”
Then I asked, “How are you growing through this? How are you learning?”
His response was, “I don’t have compassion for stupid people.”
I said, “Dude, you have a serious pride issue. You have to deal with that.” He was getting in his own way of success.
There are some legitimately dumb people out there, or those who are complete jackasses, and no matter what you do, they’re going to be mean. I understand that, I am aware of that. I don’t think life is sunshine and rainbows like my daughter did when she was younger. I’m not ignoring reality; there are some people who are really difficult to work with!
Here’s the problem: when you encounter a situation or person, the challenge for you is not what they’re doing. As long as you think it’s only their issue, that they have to change, you are not going to grow. You have to stop and say “What can I learn from this?”
I can’t control them. I release control of them. I choose to take ownership for my shit. We all have shit, let’s be honest. Anyone who says they don’t is living in a land of fiction and are someday going to hit reality. We all have issues. But that’s empowering, because we can say, “Hey! I’ve got issues. I want to grow and learn.”
If I could go back to myself 10 years ago and have five seconds to talk to 29 year-old Seth, here’s what I would say: “The only person who can get between you and reaching your goals is you. That’s it.”
When I confronted this friend, his response was, “You’re not in this industry, so you really have no right to say that.” But people struggle with issues no matter where they go or where they are. It doesn’t matter the industry: people struggle because we’re still human. We get hungry, we get tired, we get tempted, we get sore, we get excited, we get discouraged.
If you ever feel like you’re untouchable, like someone wouldn’t understand because they haven’t been in your shoes, let me tell you that sometimes the truest friend you have will say the hardest things. But they will say it in love and with a big hug. They’re not trying to hurt you. And how you respond to it will make you so much stronger.
There is no easy path to success. Every time you watch an actor or actress on a TV show, do you realize they had to sacrifice more than the average person to get there? They had to work their ass off to get to that point. Or when you hear of someone being on the receiving end of selling a massive company, that wasn’t a couple lucky months. That was extremely hard work and years of chiseling. The most important thing that made them successful was not skill or ability. It was from the inside. It was character.
My Amazon store, my eBay store, our Instagram store, our real estate investment, my coaching, my entire business is a reflection of my heart. It’s a reflection of both the good things and the things that need to grow. It’s an outflow of who I am on the inside.
Entrepreneurs, stand in the mirror and say, “Look on the inside. Who am I? How can I grow?” Because I promise, the greatest challenge you will ever run into as an entrepreneur is yourself. Just as I do. That is how you grow strong.
Being broke is hard. Being wealthy is hard. Choose your hard.
If you grow your character, you can build wealth.
I grew up as a kid with the mentality that if you are rich, you are greedy. What’s funny about it is that I have met many more broken greedy people than rich. You might say, “Seth, that’s impossible, how can you be poor and greedy? How can they be greedy about something they don’t have?”